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Well folks.
a break or interruption in the continuity of a work, series, action, etc.
It's sort of like this.
There are lots and lots of parents of addicts out here in blogland now. When I first started 10 years or so ago, I was sort of the lone wolf.
I have learned many things through the years. You will too.
I will leave you all with what I have learned.
NOT ONE FUCKING THING YOU DO IS GOING TO CHANGE YOUR ADDICT.
Sorry guys, but that is the bitter, honest, complete and total truth.
Force them into all the rehabs you can pay for. You are wasting your money.
Give them all the rules you want. They will ignore them.
Give them all the support they can use. It will make no difference.
Trust them all you want, they will rip you off over and over.
I know, I know. These are our babies. Well, they used to be. Now, they are JUNKIES.
Junkies use. Junkies are going to continue to use. Junkies are going to use until either of the following occurs.
1. They die.
2. They go to prison.
3. They decide ON THEIR OWN TO GET CLEAN
And parents? Nothing you do will make any difference. Not love, not support, not networking, not intervention, not forced into Methadone, not suboxone, not one dang thing. Oh, some of them will work short term, but they will relapse again and again and again and again. Eventually.
It's funny. My son-in-law is a recovering alcoholic.
When asked he says "I am an alcoholic", who isn't drinking.
Not one of the junkies I know says "I am a heroin addict" who is not using.
they think if they are clean, it's all good.
Wrong.
Once an alcoholic, always and alcoholic.
Once a junkie, always a junkie.
Guard your hearts, guard your other family members, stop letting the addict suck you dry and TAKE BACK YOUR LIVES.
Continue to pray and hope that God and your child work it out.
if your child dies, I am sorry. If your child decides to get and stay clean, I will rejoice.
Peace be with you.
